It’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted. My last post got quite a bit of attention, and not all of it was good. Let’s just say that if you post something on facebook, and tell people if they disagree to move along, the same does not apply for if people share your post. I got a few rude and hateful comments, but they were from people that I expected them to come from, so no real surprise there. I also got a lot of very kind words, from many unexpected sources.
That’s not why I haven’t written anything in ages. Honestly, I just haven’t felt like it. I don’t make money from this blog, so if I don’t feel like writing, I don’t. I have a lot of posts that will never be posted publicly, just because it was a nice place to write down my thoughts.
This morning, however, I was thinking about all the things I’ve learned over the last year. Covid has taught me a plethora of things, so I thought I’d share a few tidbits of wisdom I’ve picked up.
- Facebook Friendship does not equate real life friendship.
You do not have to be facebook friends with everyone you know. You don’t even need to be facebook friends with your actual friends. It’s not a requirement. If your mental health is effected by the memes, attitudes, or constant arguing of someone facebook, you can unfriend them. It really doesn’t matter.
2. Narrowing down your Facebook friends is good for your mental health.
I started doing this when people started being like “Support health heroes!” but then also “NO MASKS!” I felt like it was a huge stab in the back to healthcare workers like myself, who know and understand science is fluid and ever changing.
Several years ago I was part of an online MLM and it basically taught me to friend everyone I could, and try to sell to them. Though I friended a lot of people, I never really ever cold messaged anyone (thank god), but I ended up with a LOT of people on my facebook that I didn’t know at all. That was drilled into me so hard, that I never really thought anything of it. Until this past year with Covid and Trump and I basically just didn’t want to hear it anymore.
A coworker of mine told me that she always checks out the birthday reminders that you get on your notifications, and if she doesn’t know them or want them on her FB, she deletes them. I’ve been doing this ever since and it’s been great. I did not realize how many people I had on there that I would never have a conversation with in real life, so why on earth were they on there to see my personal photos? Crazy what we are taught to think sometimes isn’t it?
3. I will ALWAYS stand up for retail workers.
The most under appreciated people on this planet are retail workers. They take a lot of absolute shit off of people, and they can’t say anything back, for fear they may lose their livelyhood. I will die on that hill. Happily. A retail worker does not have ANY say in provincial mandates, nor store rules. So if the store has a rule that you have to wear pants while you’re shopping, don’t stand there and scream at them that it’s your RIGHT to not wear them. No matter how fierce you are, it’s not going to change the fact that that person is likely making minimum wage and has no sway over the CEO of the company. I watched a woman try to rip a man a new one at Indigo in Saint John, and he handled her very well. I also saw other random people back him up and tell him he did a good job. Thankfully, there are still good people in the world.
4. You do not have to be Facebook friends with your family.
This is a big one. If your family members are being rude, critical, or just awful, or if you just can’t stand their posts, you CAN unfriend them. If they actually cared about you and what you were up to in real life, they’d get in contact with you. I’ve got cousins I haven’t seen or spoken to since I was 5, and they were mean to me then…do you suppose I’m still friends with them on Social Media? Nope.
5. Some people don’t care about the truth, facts, or science.
They care more about their own narrative. I had an interaction with someone on social media several months ago where they were posting misinformation about masks. I decided to kindly post a little bit of scientific information to their comments. This was not received well. I was told that if I disagreed with them to move along. So I did. Unfriend. Delete. Bye. The fun thing about these people though is that if THEY disagree with MY post, they always make their way into my comments to spew their conspiracy BS, instead of taking their own advice and moving along. Funny how that works isn’t it?
6. This last year has shown the true colours of many people.
You can tell a lot about a person by they way they treat their waiter/waitress. Same goes for how they treat the cashier, the person at the front door making sure masks are worn, the people stocking shelves, the barista, etc. This ties into number 3 a little. Rest assured, I am going to remember the ones who treated others like shit, the ones who blatantly did not care about the vulnerable. I won’t treat you any differently, but I will remember.
The moral of this whole story is, protect your mental health. Help protect other people. All of that.
Well, that’s all for now. Maybe I’ll post more, maybe I won’t.
Thanks for reading!